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In this study, we examined the emotional content of parents’ conversations about past events with their 40-month-old children. Subjects were 24 white middle-class children and their mothers and fathers. At separate home visits, each parent independently engaged the child in conversation about three events that parent and child had experienced together only once before. Mothers and fathers talked about emotional aspects of events in similar ways, but they both used a greater number and variety of emotion words with daughters than with sons. Parents also mentioned sad aspects of events more with daughters than with sons. Implications of the differential socialization of emotion for boys and girls are discussed.
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This research was supported by a Spencer Foundation Grant to Robyn Fivush.
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Kuebli, J., Fivush, R. Gender differences in parent-child conversations about past emotions. Sex Roles 27, 683–698 (1992). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF02651097
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