Abstract
Communication is not something abstract. Each and everyone of us experiences it every day. Moreover, we can observe it at any time and examine observable patterns. Schulz von Thun has summarised these patterns in eight communication styles, which we will address at the beginning of the chapter. In order to examine these communication styles and patterns more closely, we can use different “tools”. We will deal with an exemplary selection of these tools in this chapter. In addition, we deal with vicious circles in communication, which illustrate that some communication styles harmonise better with each other than others. Within the framework of the values and development square, we learn how to return exaggerated values to their positive initial value. Finally, we use the drama triangle from transactional analysis and analyse drama as a communication pattern using examples.
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Lubienetzki, U., Schüler-Lubienetzki, H. (2022). Communication Styles and Patterns. In: How We Talk to Each Other - The Messages We Send With Our Words and Body Language. Springer, Berlin, Heidelberg. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-662-64437-9_3
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