Angry Young Men: Interpersonal Formulation of Anger to Effect Change

  • Peter CairnsEmail author
  • Lawrence Howells


Young men frequently experience difficulties managing anger, but often receive very little effective help. In this chapter, we explore the reasons for this presentation, before outlining a model of problematic anger, based on emotion science and interpersonal psychology, which offers angry young men an opportunity to better understand their anger and bring about positive change. Angry feelings are seen as underpinned by underlying vulnerable feelings (e.g. feeling undermined or devalued), with angry expression an attempt to escape or manage such feelings. We argue that these strategies can serve to either reinforce the anger or leave it unresolved, so can become a trap for young men. We use this formulation to outline options for treatment and include illustrative case material.


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  1. 1.Norfolk & Suffolk NHS Foundation TrustNorwichUK

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