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The more covert, “subtle” violations of sexual abuse are considered, especially the projection of shame (projective identification) routinely committed by perpetrators. James Nelson's concepts of spiritual dualism and sexist dualism are used to understand the deeper dynamics of such shaming and their societal roots. The pastoral counseling relationship can help heal the shame of those who have been abused.
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Frazier, R.T. The Subtle Violations—Abuse and the Projection of Shame. Pastoral Psychology 48, 315–336 (2000). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1022051228881
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