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Lesbian Mother Families and Gay Father Families in Italy: Family Functioning, Dyadic Satisfaction, and Child Well-Being

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The literature underlines that lesbian mother and gay father families are similar to those with heterosexual parents, regarding family functioning, dyadic satisfaction, and child development. This paper compares 40 same-sex families and 40 heterosexual parents in the Italian context. In Italy, it is impossible for same-sex couples or single lesbians and gay men to adopt a child, become married, or enter civil partnerships. The participants were administered self-reports, in order to investigate the dyadic relationships, family functioning, and emotional and social adjustment of their children. Lesbian and gay parents reported higher levels of dyadic adjustment, flexibility, and communication in their family than heterosexual parents. Data from the present study demonstrated that children raised by lesbian and gay parents showed a similar level of emotion regulation and psychological well-being than children raised by heterosexual parents. In Italy, negative attitudes towards same-sex families persist, and educational programs should be developed to deconstruct stereotypes regarding gay and lesbian parent families. These results have important implications in both clinical and social fields.

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    Roberto Baiocco, Federica Santamaria, Lilybeth Fontanesi, Emma Baumgartner & Fiorenzo Laghi

  2. Department of Dynamic and Clinical Psychology, Sapienza University of Rome, Rome, Italy

    Salvatore Ioverno & Vittorio Lingiardi

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Baiocco, R., Santamaria, F., Ioverno, S. et al. Lesbian Mother Families and Gay Father Families in Italy: Family Functioning, Dyadic Satisfaction, and Child Well-Being. Sex Res Soc Policy 12, 202–212 (2015). https://doi.org/10.1007/s13178-015-0185-x

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