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Traditional Victorian autobiography by men is dominated by the difficulties of the parent-child — especially father-son — relationship. None of the great names in the field has much to say about sibling relationships. This was something that largely disappeared with the last of the Romantics, Thomas De Quincey and Leigh Hunt. John Stuart Mill, for example, though the eldest of a large family of brothers and sisters, focuses almost entirely on his intense relationship with his father, while Anthony Trollope mentions his five siblings in passing, but four died of tuberculosis, and he seems not to have been particularly close to any of them. Charles Darwin recalls being taught by his sister Caroline, and being slower in learning than his younger sister Catherine,3 but Newman says nothing about his family relationships in childhood (indeed very little about his childhood altogether), despite his close relationship with two of his sisters, Harriett and Jemima, and the death of a third, Mary, in her late teens. There is no sense in any of the major male autobiographers of the period that relationships with brothers or sisters were at all significant. With their female contemporaries, however, the picture is markedly different, as Harriet Martineau explains in her Autobiography:
Brothers are to sisters what sisters can never be to brothers as objects of engrossing and devoted affection. The law of their frames is answerable for this: and that other law — of equity — which sisters are bound to obey, requires that they should not render their account of their disappointments where there can be no lair reply. Under the same law, sisters are bound to remember that they cannot be certain of their own titness to render an account of their own disappointments, or to form an estimate of the share of blame which may be due to themselves on the score of unreasonable expectations.4
My doll seemed lifeless and no girlish toy Had any reason when my brother came.1
Little by little we never met again.2
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George Eliot, ‘Brother and Sister’, Sonnet X, in George Eliot, Selected Essays, Poems and Other Writings, ed. A. S. Byatt and Nicholas Warren (Harmondsworth: Penguin, 1990).
Gertrude Stein, Everybody’s Autobiography (1937; repr. London: Virago, 1985), p. 61.
The Autobiography of Charles Darwin, 1809–1882, ed. Nora Barlow (London: Collins, 1958), p. 22.
Harriet Martineau’s Autobiography (1877, repr. ed. Gaby Weiner, 2 vols, London: Virago, 1983), I, 99–100.
Juliet Barker, The Brontës (London: Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 1994), p. 568.
Charlotte Mary Yonge, ‘Autobiography’ (1877) in Charlotte Mary Yonge: Her Life and Letters, ed. Christabel Coleridge (London: Macmillan, 1903), p. 73.
Mary Howitt, An Autobiography, ed. Margaret Howitt, 2 vols (London: William Isbister, 1889)
The Autobiography of Margaret Oliphant: The Complete Text, ed. Elisabeth Jay (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1990), p. 19.
Harriet Martineau: Selected Letters, ed. Valerie Sanders (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1990), p. 16
Valerie Kossew Pichanick, Harriet Martineau: The Woman and Her Work, 1802–76 (Ann Arbor: University of Michigan Press, 1980), p. 16.
The Autobiography of Elizabeth M. Sewell, ed. Eleanor L. Sewell (London: Longmans, 1907), p. 42.
Lionel James, A Forgotten Genius: Sewell of St Columba’s and Radley (London: Faber & Faber, 1945), p. 123.
This was in March 1846 after Branwell had tricked their father into giving him a sovereign under pretence of paying a debt, and promptly spent it in a public house: The Letters of Charlotte Bronte, Vol. I 1829–1847, ed. Margaret Smith (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1995), p. 455.
James Martineau, Biographical Memoranda, p. 10; p. 38; see also James Drummond and C. B. Upton, The Life and Letters of James Martineau, 2 vols (London: James Nisbet, 1902), I, 222.
The letter is reproduced as an Appendix to Theodora Bosanquet’s Harriet Martineau: An Essay in Comprehension (London: Haslewood Books, 1927), pp. 218–41.
[James Martine, ‘Comte’s Life and Philosophy/ National Review XIII/7 (July 1858), 184–220
Harriet Martineau’s Autobiography II, 330; 334 [James Martine. ‘Science, Nescience, and Faith’ National Review 15 (October 1862), pp. 398
The George Eliot Letters, ed. Gordon S. Haight, 9 vols (New Haven: Yale University Press, 1954–78), VI, 353.
Constance W. Hassett, ‘“Siblings and Antislavery”: The Literary and Political Relations of Harriet Martineau, James Martineau, and Maria Weston Chapman’, Signs (Winter 1996), 21/2 (Winter 1996), p. 404.
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Sanders, V. (2002). ‘One of the Highest Forms of Friendship’: Brother-Sister Relationships in Women’s Autobiography. In: The Brother-Sister Culture in Nineteenth-Century Literature. Palgrave Macmillan, London. https://doi.org/10.1057/9780230513211_4
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