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What is the relationship between romantic love and sexual desire? Is it true that ‘love ain’t nothing but sex misspelled,’ as Harlan Ellison (1982) claimed, or are they two separate emotions? And what is the relationship between romantic love and marriage? Do ‘love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage,’ or are they two separate experiences? These issues are widely disputed.
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Ben-Ze’ev, A. (2014). Ain’t Love Nothing but Sex Misspelled? The Role of Sex in Romantic Love. In: Maurer, C., Milligan, T., Pacovská, K. (eds) Love and Its Objects. Palgrave Macmillan, London. https://doi.org/10.1057/9781137383310_3
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