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This chapter examines the taboo nature of women watching all-male sex and ties into previous thinking around eroticism and transgression (Bataille, 1957/1986; Heiman, Psychophysiology 266–274, 1977). It also examines issues raised by women intruding on the ‘sexual territory’ of ‘The Other’ and the fetishisation of gay male sexuality. It examines participants’ wider involvement with the gay community and gay activism, and looks at the involvement of gay men in the slash community.

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    It can be, and often is, combined with others such as ‘Sex Pollen’ or ‘Aliens made Them Do It’. There’s also a lot of excellent meta works that knowingly wink to this convention.

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