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Integrating Behaviorism and Attachment Theory in Parent Coaching

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In this chapter I describe parent coaching with dyads with an ambivalent/resistant attachment and parents with a preoccupied state of mind. First, I describe characteristics of ambivalent/resistant attachment. Second, I describe parenting behaviors associated with ambivalent/resistant attachment. Third, I describe relevant research on ambivalent/resistant attachment. Fourth, I describe characteristics of preoccupied state of mind. Fifth, I provide clinical observations and recommendations for coaching parents in ambivalent/resistant attachment and parents with preoccupied state of mind.

As you move in, I move away; as I move away, you move in…No matter where I move in relation to you, I cannot get comfortable.

(Beebe et al. 2010)

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Troutman, B. (2015). Can’t Live With Her, Can’t Live Without Her. In: Integrating Behaviorism and Attachment Theory in Parent Coaching. SpringerBriefs in Psychology(). Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-15239-4_6

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