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Forget me Not: Stalkers, Modus Operandi and Perceived Motivations

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Are stalkers mentally ill and pathologically obsessed with their idols and objects of attention? Are they jealous and possessive prior intimate partners seeking to re-establish a relationship or take revenge and control over their partners? This chapter contextualises the experiences of the victims who were interviewed for my study by providing basic demographic information and a discussion of the contextual and motivational characteristics of their pursuit. Victims provided interesting and often insightful observations and interpretations about their stalkers, the methods and tools the latter used to unsettle, disempower and intimidate them and the potential motivations of their behaviour. Their accounts indicate that stalkers comprise a rather heterogenous group of perpetrators, they often use a wide range of tactics and tools to harass and destabilise their targets and their motivations may range from seeking attention and making their presence felt to taking revenge and reasserting power and control.

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Korkodeilou, J. (2020). Forget me Not: Stalkers, Modus Operandi and Perceived Motivations. In: Victims of Stalking. Palgrave Studies in Victims and Victimology. Palgrave Macmillan, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-47793-6_4

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