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A Model of Female Sexual Desire: Internalized Working Models of Parent–Child Relationships and Sexual Body Self-Representations

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The etiology of low female sexual desire, the most prevalent sexual complaint in women, is multi-determined, implicating biological and psychological factors, including women’s early parent–child relationships and bodily self-representations. The current study evaluated a model that hypothesized that sexual body self-representations (sexual subjectivity, self-objectification, genital self-image) explain (i.e., mediate) the relation between internalized working models of parent–child relationships (attachment, separation–individuation, parental identification) and sexual desire in heterosexual women. We recruited 614 young, heterosexual women (M = 25.5 years, SD = 4.63) through social media. The women completed an online survey. Structural equation modeling was used. The hypotheses were supported in that the relation between internalized working models of parent–child relationships (attachment and separation–individuation) and sexual desire was mediated by sexual body self-representations (sexual body esteem, self-objectification, genital self-image). However, parental identification was not related significantly to sexual body self-representations or sexual desire in the model. Current findings demonstrated that understanding female sexual desire necessitates considering women’s internalized working models of early parent–child relationships and their experiences of their bodies in a sexual context. Treatment of low or absent desire in women would benefit from modalities that emphasize early parent–child relationships as well as interventions that foster mind–body integration.

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  1. Benjamin’s pairing of biological sex and the traits of nurturance and agency seem stereotypic and based on the traditional gender division of a patriarchal culture. However, to the extent the sexes assume non-overlapping gender roles or are biased toward one set of gender roles, some version of what she espoused may still apply for some.

  2. The medical conditions affecting sexual functioning included diabetes, thyroid disorder, cardiovascular and neurological disease, stroke, cancer, amenorrhea, polycystic ovarian syndrome, hyper- and hypo-prolactinemia, congenital adrenal hyperplasia, or Turner syndrome.

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This article was supported by the Far Fund, a private foundation in New York, NY. The content is solely the responsibility of the authors and does not necessarily represent the official views of the Far Fund. The senior author was at the City University of New York—The Graduate Center when and where the research was conducted. Preliminary data were presented at the 2014 annual meeting of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, Tampa, FL, USA.

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Cherkasskaya, E., Rosario, M. A Model of Female Sexual Desire: Internalized Working Models of Parent–Child Relationships and Sexual Body Self-Representations. Arch Sex Behav 46, 2429–2444 (2017). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-016-0899-8

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