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Passionate love is a universal emotion. Researchers have found that people in love have many advantages: it is known to improve both psychological and physical health. When things go badly, however, lovers may suffer: the pangs of rejection, jealousy, sadness, and anger. People can learn both from the joy of fulfilling relationships and pain from the ones that go awry.
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Hatfield, E., Feybesse, C., Narine, V., Rapson, R.L. (2016). Passionate Love: Inspired by Angels or Demons?. In: Aumer, K. (eds) The Psychology of Love and Hate in Intimate Relationships. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-39277-6_5
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