Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy

2019 Edition
| Editors: Jay L. Lebow, Anthony L. Chambers, Douglas C. Breunlin

Hold Me Tight/Let Me Go Enrichment Program for Families and Teens

  • Aikin NancyEmail author
  • Aikin Paul
Reference work entry
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-49425-8_984

Name of Model

Hold Me Tight®/Let Me Go: An Enrichment Program for Families and Teens.


Hold Me Tight®/Let Me Go (HMT/LMG) is a program developed for families with teens. It is a comprehensive educational enrichment workshop designed to move the relationship between parents and teens from distress toward comfort, understanding, and secure connection (in this text the terms parents and caregivers are used interchangeably). Securely attached families are possible, even during the stormy period of adolescence. As parents we are all better and stronger human beings when we can create a secure base and safe haven for our family members even while teens are saying, “Let me go.” Parents learn that being accessible, responsive, and emotionally engaged with their adolescents help build this basis of security and a foundation for a saner society.

Hold Me Tight®/Let Me Go (Aikin and Aikin 2017) is based on the Hold Me Tight® Program: Conversations for Connection, an educational form...

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Sacramento-Davis EFT CenterDavisUSA
  2. 2.International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused TherapyOttawaCanada

Section editors and affiliations

  • Corinne Datchi
    • 1
  • Ryan M. Earl
    • 2
  1. 1.Seton Hall UniversitySouth OrangeUSA
  2. 2.The Family Institute at Northwestern UniversityEvanstonUSA