Underlying the patient’s search for glory is the insistence that the perfect ideal is possible to achieve. This unrealistic drive or claim that perfection is possible often lies hidden under the surface, held as a secret wish to achieve something that falls outside the realm of reality. Horney distinguishes the “secret claim” that glory is possible from the “normal life” that individuals often present to the world. The secretly held desire for glory is a belief that is rarely expressed openly for fear of shattering the hoped for illusions.
According to Horney (1950), “Although destructive in its consequences, it nevertheless stems from man’s best desires—to expand beyond his narrow confines” (p. 176). We are reminded, however, that the persistent attempts to stretch beyond one’s narrow confines by adopting a search for glory is a...
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