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This study used a qualitative, exploratory approach to develop a conceptual framework that illustrated the process by which spirituality emerged as one of the processes that helped people transcend a traumatic childhood. Ninety people described how they survived and transcended the difficult time. This article outlines the stages of the developmental process that culminated for many in a deeper spiritual awareness and how this helped them in their process of transcending. These findings have implications for marriage and family therapists, clergy, and others in the helping professions in providing therapy, resources, and support for those who have experienced difficult childhoods.
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Skogrand, L., Singh, A., Allgood, S. et al. The Process of Transcending a Traumatic Childhood. Contemp Fam Ther 29, 253–270 (2007). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10591-007-9049-8
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