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This paper describes a phenomenon of using a threat to divorce by families in extreme distress (FED) as a way of maintaining family homeostasis; that is, using a threat to divorce but never really implementing it. By relating to processes, such as social exchange and attachment, that often take place in the decision-making of divorce, we try to understand why those families choose to use the threat, thereby explaining this phenomenon. Using components of defining family boundaries, excitement and power struggle, we are thus able to better understand the existence of the phenomenon among FED.
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Shamai, M., Sharlin, S. & Gilad-Smolinski, D. Using a threat of divorce for maintaining family homeostasis within families in extreme distress (FED). Contemp Fam Ther 17, 195–207 (1995). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF02252358
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DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/BF02252358