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Radical Acceptance: A Nondual Psychology Approach to Grief and Loss

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This article explores the application of nondual psychology in transforming grief and loss into the experience of nondual consciousness. Nondual consciousness is the collapse of the dualistic notions of self and other through the direct realization of the stateless state of no-self. The experience of grief and loss serves as a catalyst to this radical experience because it invites the experience of death and non-being which can shatter one’s conventional notions of self and open one up to the realm of transpersonal and nondual consciousness. The barrier to this experience is the fear of no-self. Nondual psychology is the facilitation towards the radical acceptance of no-self, whereby the contraction around grief dissolves revealing the open spaciousness of one’s being. The author also includes a segment of his own transformational journey through grief and a client case study.

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Theriault, B. Radical Acceptance: A Nondual Psychology Approach to Grief and Loss. Int J Ment Health Addiction 10, 354–367 (2012). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11469-011-9359-9

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