Mourning in a ‘Sociotechnically’ Acceptable Manner: A Facebook Case Study

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This chapter investigates how mourning practices are transposed on and performed through social network sites (SNS). We define mourning practices as the ways in which bereavement status is performed and grief is expressed in socially acceptable manners. This interest in the social dimension of mourning was already present in Durkheim’s work (1912/2008, p. 567) in which he argues that ‘grief is not the spontaneous expression of individual emotions’.1 Mourning practices are framed through a series of conventions, customs and rules (Baudry, 2003) that authorize certain rights and privileges, but also stress certain restrictions and obligations to specific individuals (de Vries, 2001; Sklar, 1991). Mourning ‘causes mass or individual behaviours (attitudes, conducts, rituals) that are more or less strictly codified depending on cases, places and times’ (Thomas, 1988, p. 44).


Prospective Memory Social Network Site Online Social Network Memorial Page Acceptable Manner 
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