Asking for Help Is a Sign of Weakness

  • Jeni Boyd


I sometimes use this story with clients who feel that asking for any sort of help is a sign of weakness but the story also illustrates that help comes from unexpected sources. It suggests that we need to use all the strength that is available, no matter how unlikely (or puny) that help may appear. If I do not include the spiritual in my counselling work, can I honestly say that I am ‘using all my strength’ and if the client does not tap into their spiritual strength, however insignificant that may initially appear to be, will they be able to move ‘the rock’ that prevents growth and change?


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