Love is in the Air: Romantic Relationships at Work

  • Fiona M. Wilson


Around Valentine’s Day each year, magazine and newspaper articles talk about romance at work. For example, Adrian Furnham (Feb. 2012) a Professor of Psychology al University College London, discusses how up to a fifth of us meet our partners at work and a quarter to half of office romances lead to marriage. Online surveys and academic research over the last few decades have clearly illustrated the prevalence of workplace romance; it has been suggested that workplace romance has been on the rise over the last 50 years (Goudreau, 2012a). In a 2011 survey by, 40% of respondents revealed they had dated a coworker, while a third said they had married the person they dated at work (Adams, 2011, 2012; see also SHRM, 2011). Dillard and Witteman (1985) report that nearly 75% of the individuals they interviewed had either observed or participated in a romantic relationship at work. Nearly a quarter of managers say they have been involved in such a relationship at least once during their career (Peak, 1995), Several studies from North America have shown that in universities approximately 17% of female graduate students say that they had a sexual relationship with at least one of their professors while at university (Bellas & Gossett, 2001; Pope et al,, 1979; Glaser & Thorpe, 1986), 26% of male faculty reported sexual involvement with female students (Fitzgerald ef al., 1988).


Sexual Behavior Sexual Harassment Romantic Relationship Human Resource Management Sexual Intimacy 
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