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Interpersonal Relations and Transcendence

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As I was beginning this chapter, I looked through some of the descriptions of transformations in relationships that I had collected over the years. One in particular caught my attention. It is a story with the same theme as those presented in the first chapter, but like any deeply human and personal story, it also stands by itself. Because it was written by a former student whom I have gotten to know quite well over the years, it is especially meaningful to me. As I use it to discuss the connection between the interpersonal and transcendence, I will also focus on two other stories from earlier chapters, one from Chapter 2, on disillusionment, and one from Chapter 3, on forgiveness.

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The familiar swallows up everything. It is bottomless. When experience fades into the familiar, it loses substance, it becomes a ghost.

Donnell Stern1

Whether we like it or not, the depths in us are always throwing up treasure.

John O’Donohue2

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Halling, S. (2008). Interpersonal Relations and Transcendence. In: Intimacy, Transcendence, and Psychology. Palgrave Macmillan, New York. https://doi.org/10.1057/9780230610255_7

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