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Being ‘Sexy’

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Abstract

Focusing on the consensual use of the internet for sexual pleasure and enjoyment among adults, this chapter explores cybersex as a reciprocal sexual interaction mediated by the internet. Technological affordances such as anonymity, disembodiment, and non-proximate intimacy are examined in relation to two key related questions: Is cybersex ‘real sex’? and Does cybersex transcend the body? The chapter argues that cybersex can offer new opportunities to play with, experiment or try out sexualities in relatively risk-free ways, but also evoke new obligations and requirements. Virtual spaces can operate as liminal spaces, as spaces betwixt and between reality and fantasy which users can exploit to their own satisfaction.

Keywords

Cybersex LifeSecond Life Real lifeReal Life Online Sex (OSA) fantasyFantasy 
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  1. 1.School of Applied Social ScienceUniversity of BrightonBrightonUK

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