From ‘no means no’ to ‘an enthusiastic yes’: Changing the Discourse on Sexual Consent Through Sex and Relationships Education

  • Maddy Coy
  • Liz Kelly
  • Fiona Vera-Gray
  • Maria Garner
  • Ava Kanyeredzi


How sexual consent should be discussed with young people is the subject of current policy debates and contestations in the UK. While the current Westminster government violence against women and girls (VAWG) strategy (Home Office, 2011) and subsequent action plans recognise the importance of addressing consent, with no statutory relationships and sex education there are few contexts in which these conversations with young people routinely take place. Organisations that work with young people as victims/survivors of violence and through school-based primary prevention programmes have long identified sexual consent as an issue which requires specialist attention and intervention (see e.g. Coy et al., 2010; EVAW, 2011).


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  • Maddy Coy
  • Liz Kelly
  • Fiona Vera-Gray
  • Maria Garner
  • Ava Kanyeredzi

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