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Wo die Liebe hinfällt, da bleibt sie liegen

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Um das Sprichwort „Wo die Liebe hinfällt, da bleibt sie liegen“ auf seinen Wahrheitsgehalt hin zu prüfen, werden verschiedene Ansätze zur Entstehung und dem Erhalt von Liebe und Partnerschaft betrachtet. Dabei zeigt sich, dass beim Verlieben der erste Eindruck wichtig ist. Wie dieser ausfällt, hängt von verschiedenen Faktoren ab, die u. a. die Auswahl an potenziellen Partnern eingrenzen. Zu diesen Faktoren zählen sowohl fortpflanzungsfördernde, evolutionsbiologische wie auch soziale Aspekte, so z. B. räumliche Nähe, Attraktivität, Ähnlichkeit und Sympathie. Auch Zufallseinflüsse sind nicht zu unterschätzen. Die hohe Scheidungsrate beweist jedoch, dass nicht jede Liebe und Partnerschaft für immer hält. Dennoch gibt es Erfolgsfaktoren für eine lange Partnerschaft. Diese sind von einer positiven Sichtweise und einem freundschaftlichen Miteinander geprägt.

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Erk, W. (2017). Wo die Liebe hinfällt, da bleibt sie liegen. In: Frey, D. (eds) Psychologie der Sprichwörter. Springer, Berlin, Heidelberg. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-662-50381-2_9

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