Gender (Non) Conformity in the Family

  • Katie L. AcostaEmail author
  • Veronica B. Salcedo
Part of the Handbooks of Sociology and Social Research book series (HSSR)


This chapter surveys the empirical research on gender (non) conformity in the family with an emphasis on work that provides an intersectional analysis or centers the experiences of marginalized social groups. We offer that masculinities and femininities are performed in culturally specific ways and survey research that illustrates some of these differences. We look at research on men redefining hegemonic masculinity, parent’s gender socialization of their children, intimate partners navigating gender in their relationships and sexually nonconforming individuals doing gender within families of choice.


Gender nonconformity Family Intersectionality 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Georgia State UniversityAtlantaUSA

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