Self-Love and Self-Curation Online

  • Yasmin Ibrahim


The self is constantly curated through an image-laden economy from the narcissistic turn to ‘lifecasting’ online. This chapter examines the notion of self-love and how our image-saturated worlds induce new modes of sociality that centre the transaction and curation of the self online. The coalescing of the mirror and screen produce a new-found fascination with a self which is aestheticized and constantly curated for others but most importantly validated through this gaze. This notion explores the concept of glass-house society where the act of watching defines new modes of self-curation and sociality.


Self-love Self-curation Self-objectification Self-asetheticization Imaging technologies Banal imaging Narcissism Self-exposure 


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  • Yasmin Ibrahim
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  1. 1.School of Business and ManagementQueen Mary University of LondonLondonUK

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