‘It’s a Mixed Up, Muddled Up, Shook Up World’

  • Lucy Neville


This chapter explores the concept of m/m sex as queer sex. Many women spoke of how m/m pornography or erotica offers an opportunity for expression of non-normative sexuality, and that their engagement with it allows them to push boundaries and explore other kinds of kink. Cante and Restivo (The cultural-aesthetic specificities of all-male moving-image pornography. In L. Williams (Ed.), Porn studies, Duke University Press, London, pp. 142–166, 2004) argue that m/m porn is always ‘non-normative, whether one conceives the non-normative as a violation of patriarchal law, or, more experientially, as the excess attached to feeling different and acting like an outsider’, adding that ‘all-male pornography at some point also becomes the field for the (utopian) reinvention of the world eternally promised by identity politics’. This chapter investigates how gay male porn can be seen as subverting the patriarchal order by challenging masculinist values, providing a protected space for non-conformist, non-reproductive and non-familial sexuality, and encouraging many sex-positive values.


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