Holding on and Giving Up

  • John G. BruhnEmail author
Part of the SpringerBriefs in Well-Being and Quality of Life Research book series (BRIEFSWELLBEING)


In Western culture “holding on” is usually thought of as showing strength. It has been said that “all of the art of living lies in the mingling of letting go and holding on.” Some people think that it’s “holding on” that makes one strong, but sometimes it’s “letting go.” Letting go doesn’t mean that you are giving up but rather accepting that there are things we cannot change. “Giving up” on the other hand, means the suspension of the will to live or there is no longer an attempt made to deal with life’s challenges or to look ahead. Not all deaths have equal importance to the family system, but all families need to grieve to cope with loss.


Family as a system Family repertoire of social support Grieving Holding on 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of SociologyNorthern Arizona UniversityFlagstaffUSA

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