Lost Heart (Beat)/Broken (Body)

  • Patricia Lynn DobkinEmail author


Sitting in the therapeutic space together, exploring, and learning to live with losses of hopes, dreams, babies, and plans, the therapist and patient in this narrative are healed by their work together. Monique arrived at the therapist’s door feeling broken and heartsick. She had recently experienced another pregnancy loss—her third. Her therapist recalled her own multiple pregnancy losses, including the death of her first-born infant son, and felt the full force of compassion for Monique’s experiences. While there were uncanny similarities between the two women, the therapist’s mindful clinical practice guided her work. Narrative therapy was used to encourage Monique to explore her suffering and to accept what had happened to her. This resulted in collaboration between the two women, each who wrote parts of this chapter. By opening to one another in this way, a deep connection was formed. Both felt gratitude for this gift.


Loss Acceptance Healing Women’s health Narrative therapy 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Medicine, McGill Programs in Whole Person CareMcGill UniversityMontrealCanada

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