Parenting and the Military: The Case of Israel

  • Rachel DekelEmail author
  • Rivka Tuval-Mashiach
  • Yaara Sadeh
Part of the Risk and Resilience in Military and Veteran Families book series (RRMV)


The current chapter reviews the existing research on three aspects of parenting and the military in Israel: parenting of young soldiers; career military service and its effects on parenting; and the effects of PTSD on parenting, taking into account the unique cultural, social and political characteristics of Israel. The chapter’s first section sheds light on parents of soldiers in compulsory service, and highlights the adjustment and contribution of both parent and child to this transition. The second section, which addresses career military service and its effects on parenting, explores the ways in which separation factors, contextual factors and the adaptation of families during temporary parental absences manifest themselves in the Israeli context. The chapter’s third section explores the path by which PTSD symptom clusters may impact aspects of the parent-child relationship, with a focus on the Israeli context. Discussion: Common aspects of the three situations and differences that exist between the Israeli context and mainly the American context are discussed in an attempt to guide future directions for research.


Military families Parenting and military Compulsory service Career military Temporary parental absence Posttraumatic stress disorder Secondary traumatization Israel 


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Rachel Dekel
    • 1
    Email author
  • Rivka Tuval-Mashiach
    • 2
  • Yaara Sadeh
    • 1
  1. 1.The Louis and Gabi Weisfeld School of Social WorkBar Ilan UniversityRamat GanIsrael
  2. 2.Department of PsychologyBar Ilan UniversityRamat GanIsrael

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