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This chapter elucidates and complicates where these men’s physical same-sex boundaries lay. In this bromantic culture, games related to kissing each other, seeing who can achieve an erection first, and smacking their erect penises together in a game to see who goes limp first, blurs traditional boundaries between sexual desires and sexual acts. Nowhere is this more true than with the copious amounts of group sex that is found to occur with these men; including two men and a woman threesomes. The chapter highlights that threesomes are hard to clarify in terms of sexual desire, because sexual and social desire are not separate with these men. They are in a sense, homosocial. Further evidence of their homosociality comes from their comfort in being nude around each other, showing each other their erections, and even licking or placing their friends’ penises into their mouths.
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Robinson, S., Anderson, E. (2022). Sexuality. In: Bromance. Palgrave Macmillan, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-98610-0_11
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