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Sex Talk Intimacies

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Online Sex Talk and the Social World

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This chapter focuses on how participants in the synchronous chat community of Walford use various forms of sex talk as a way to build solidarity and intimacy in their text-based, virtual environment. The findings and discussion show how different subtypes of sex talk (e.g., sexual joking, greetings, disclosure) each have their own interactional norms and patterns of use that members are expected to adhere to in their talk. These patterns relate to settings of use, in-group jokes, and the adoption of hegemonic gender and sexual ideologies.

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Notes

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    In this instance Ross was referring to ‘try and [verb]’; however, his article discusses both ‘try and [verb]’ and ‘try to [verb]’ as variations of the same construction. His findings related to the differences between the two are not substantive but that ‘try to [verb]’ is more common and gaining in usage and that these points hold true for both American and British English varieties.

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    As explained in Chap. 3, Walford’s infrastructure permitted game play, including the card games poker and cribbage.

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Myketiak, C. (2020). Sex Talk Intimacies. In: Online Sex Talk and the Social World. Palgrave Studies in Language, Gender and Sexuality. Palgrave Macmillan, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-53579-7_5

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