Abstract
The human tendency to affiliate with similar others is manifested in a variety of interpersonal relationships, including same-sex friendships. We propose that similarity between female friends in physical attractiveness entails both benefits and costs, with one cost being the potential for mating rivalry. In this chapter we discuss previous research on the prevalence and potential benefits of allying with similar others, the nature of intrasexual competition between women, and the intimate yet competitive nature of women’s friendships with other women. Then, we describe two recent studies from our lab designed to test the proposal that female friends are similarly attractive and that discrepancies in friends’ physical attractiveness levels are tied to perceptions of rivalry in their friendship. We demonstrate that female friends assort on attributes tied to intrasexual competition among women, specifically body shape and overall attractiveness. We also demonstrate that discrepancies in female friends’ attractiveness are linked to women’s perceptions of rivalry in their friendships. Finally, we provide discriminant evidence of these effects; specifically, attributes less relevant to women’s mate value, such as ambition and athleticism, are not tied to women’s perceptions of rivalry with their friends. We discuss the unique character of female friendships in the context of an evolutionary history dominated by male philopatry, and we offer ideas for future research on how sexual behavior is tied to female–female friendship dynamics.
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One might raise the argument that we found links between rivalry and attractiveness because the items comprising the mating rivalry composite are specific to attractiveness. However, only one of the seven rivalry items actually mentioned attractiveness (“I feel unattractive in comparison to her”), and our findings on attractiveness and rivalry were unchanged when we ran analyses without that item.
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Bleske-Rechek, A., Kolb, C.M., Quigley, K. (2014). Attractiveness and Rivalry in Women’s Same-Sex Friendships. In: Weekes-Shackelford, V., Shackelford, T. (eds) Evolutionary Perspectives on Human Sexual Psychology and Behavior. Evolutionary Psychology. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4939-0314-6_18
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