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Coping After a Relationship Ends

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Coping with Negative Life Events

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The most typical form of romantic/sexual relationships in our society today is that of serial monogamy. Though our culture still plays lipservice through the mass media to the idea of one great love, the actual experience of the vast majority of our citizens involves an extended series of greater, or lesser, loves. Dating, for example, now begins at an extremely early age and lasts longer as the average age at first marriage has risen over the last decade Divorce has become commonplace and so has remarriage. Never before in human history have so many people had so many romantic/sexual involvements.

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  1. Department of Psychology, The University of Kansas, Lawrence, KS, 66045, USA

    Sharon S. Brehm

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    C. R. Snyder

  2. Department of Psychology, University of Missouri, Columbia, Missouri, USA

    Carol E. Ford

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Brehm, S.S. (1987). Coping After a Relationship Ends. In: Snyder, C.R., Ford, C.E. (eds) Coping with Negative Life Events. The Plenum Series on Stress and Coping. Springer, Boston, MA. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4757-9865-4_8

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