The Daughter of Aging Parents

  • Ann Stueve
  • Lydia O’Donnell
Part of the Women in Context: Development and Stresses book series (WICO)


Demographic changes since the turn of the century have reshaped the contours of the parent-child relationship, considerably increasing the span of years in which children and their parents meet and interact as adults. Sixty-five-year-old mothers and fathers typically look back not only on long and shared relationships with their sons and daughters but also look forward to shared futures lasting, on the average, 15 years or more. In contrast to previous generations, when children often experienced the death of a parent during their formative or young adult years, contemporary men and women in midlife and beyond are having to define and negotiate what it means to be a son or daughter when one has children, or even grandchildren, of one’s own.


Adult Child Elderly Parent Midlife Woman Gerontological Society Elderly Mother 


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© Plenum Press, New York 1984

Authors and Affiliations

  • Ann Stueve
    • 1
  • Lydia O’Donnell
    • 2
  1. 1.OssiningUSA
  2. 2.Wellesley College Center for Research on WomenWellesleyUSA

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