Whenever we feel torn between two mutually exclusive courses of action; whenever a decision in our lives seems impossible because we perceive unmanageable consequences no matter how we choose; whenever our feelings and our desires are plagued by doubt, confusion, and mixed feelings; in short, whenever we are ambivalent, we are naturally apt to give out mixed signals to those who care about us. Those who care about us may wish to help us to feel secure and happy, but then find that their efforts to do so are stymied. How can they help us to get what we want when we ourselves do not know what that is? The best they can do, assuming that we are willing to admit to our ambivalence, is to help us to weigh the pro’s and con’s of any particular decision. Even then, however, we often have a “yes, but ... ” for any potential piece of advice.
KeywordsSocial Role Family System Mixed Signal Mixed Feeling Dysfunctional Family
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