In the 1960s and 1970s, experimental social psychologists who began to investigate intimacy soon found that such research was still taboo. Intimacy researchers were denounced by irate politicians, religious leaders, people-on-the-street, and even their own colleagues (Berscheid & Walster, 1978; Wexler, 1979). In the last few years, however, intimacy research has become not only respectable but fashionable. Social psychologists have begun to theorize about intimacy (Berscheid & Walster, 1978; Cook & McHenry, 1979; Hatfield, Traupmann, Spreacher, Utne, & Hay, 1982; Kelley, 1979; Stoller, 1979; Walster & Walster, 1977). Feminists agree that it is a profoundly important concern (Firestone, 1970). Marxists have discovered it (Foucault, 1978; Poster, 1978; Zaretsky, 1976). Even gerontologists have begun to recognize its importance (Huyck, 1977; Reedy & Birren, 1978; Stinnett, Carter, & Montgomery, 1972).
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