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A Historical Perspective
  • Richard E. Sexton
  • Virginia Staudt Sexton


Throughout the history of interpersonal relationships, the qualities of closeness and depth in the experience of human attachment have been associated with intimacy. And yet, whether in love or friendship, there is a lack of consensus concerning the precisely essential character of intimacy. One has only to allude to the variety of individual, familial, fraternal, extrafamilial, and sexual intimacies to realize the complex dimension of the concept. As Levenson (1974) has pointed out, intimacy “is a venerable word with a long history of changing meaning” (p. 360).


Interpersonal Relationship Intimate Relationship Body Orientation Experimental Social Psychology Sexual Intimacy 
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Authors and Affiliations

  • Richard E. Sexton
    • 1
  • Virginia Staudt Sexton
    • 2
  1. 1.Department of PsychologyHutchings Psychiatric CenterSyracuseUSA
  2. 2.Department of PsychologySt. John’s UniversityJamaicaUSA

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