How to Lose Friends and Influence Nobody: An Analysis of Social Failure

  • Peter Trower
Part of the NATO Conference Series book series (NATOCS, volume 11)


It is a basic assumption of social skills training that interaction is “healthy” and that many mental disorders cause, or are caused by, disturbance or breakdown in communication. Investigators from many disciplines have referred to this theme but perhaps the most convincing empirical work comes from Zigler & Phillips (1962) who have shown in various studies that level of premorbid social competence is the best predictor of outcome in psychiatric patients, almost irrespective of diagnosis. Abnormal forms of social behaviour have been identified in many diagnostic categories and in some it is a widespread problem. Sylph, Ross & Kedward (1978) identified such problems in virtually all their sample of chronic inpatients, and Bryant et al (1976) found evidence of such problems in 27% of neurotic outpatients.


Social Skill Social Anxiety Nonverbal Communication Social Skill Training Display Rule 
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Authors and Affiliations

  • Peter Trower
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  1. 1.Hollymoor HospitalNorthfield, BirminghamEngland

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