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Views of women’s and men’s roles are changing, as are views of what it means to be a woman or a man in our culture. Also changing is what is needed for heterosexual relationships to endure. Commitment and stability today are closely tied to views of personal happiness, relational satisfaction, and egalitarian values. Yet vestiges of tradition, embedded in assumptions about gender, enter into discourses in interpersonal relationships in ways individuals fail to see and undermine its stability.
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Gilbert, L.A., Walker, S.J. (1999). Dominant Discourse in Heterosexual Relationships. In: Adams, J.M., Jones, W.H. (eds) Handbook of Interpersonal Commitment and Relationship Stability. Perspectives on Individual Differences. Springer, Boston, MA. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4773-0_23
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