Reliving the Past or Creating the Future
Beyond symptom control, the major purpose of an intensive psychotherapy is to stop blindly reliving a destructive past; otherwise, there is no opportunity to create a productive future. The legacy of a traumatic early life is what all sufferers of major personality disorders have in common. Typically, they have all had a significant loss, devastating abuse, or narcissistic injury that threw them into a state of intolerable grief. For some, this overwhelming grief could be managed only by splitting off the suffering part of the personality from consciousness in order to numb the pain. It is this split-off, hurt, and angry self that forms the nucleus of internal saboteurs, which rob individuals of success in life by sabotaging their most cherished conscious plans.
KeywordsPersonality Disorder Therapeutic Alliance Woman Therapist Love Relationship Traumatic Early Life
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