Abstract
Parenting can be one of the most emotionally rich and satisfying experiences in our lives. As parents, we are privileged to revisit ourselves as children, as we are present for our own child’s unfolding experience. The joy and wonder that our child experiences as she discovers a ladybug nestling on a new green leaf in the springtime becomes our joy and wonder as well. When our child eagerly anticipates the arrival of Santa, we too feel the excitement and joy of his imminent arrival, temporarily suspending our disbelief. It is because these experiences touch us at such a deep level, reconnecting us to early powerful emotional experiences, which gives raising our child the intense emotional richness.
At the moment of giving birth to a child, is the mother separate from the child? You should study not only that you become a mother when your child is born, but also that you become a child.
Dogen Zenji (edited by Tanahashi, 1985)
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Bögels, S., Restifo, K. (2014). Session 5: Parenting Patterns and Schemas. In: Mindful Parenting. Mindfulness in Behavioral Health. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4614-7406-7_9
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