Building Resilience Through Letters

Abstract

Journaling is a way for two people to share thoughts and experiences through the power of the written word, developed asynchronously. Shared writing keeps relationships thriving in a creative and unique way, adding significance to the bonds. Writing can include creative expression such as poetry and even questions and answers, probing issues perhaps not otherwise likely to be addressed through verbal dialogue. Writing letters allows for effective portrayal of inner feelings within the relationship. Healthy human attachment is manifested through the thoughts and impressions within the individual dyad. Letters written over a span of time provide interest and fascination because they present the unfolding on a chronological basis of the inner narrative of a life (Allport, G. W. (1965). Letters from Jenny. San Diego: Harcourt Brace). We really cannot understand a life unless it is described at length (White, R. W. (1966). Lives in progress. New York: Holt, Rinehart and Winston). Through journaling, each person becomes more self-aware as a result of becoming more aware of the other person. In an honest relationship, there need be no false fronts or pretenses. The constancy of the writing creates a type of accountability where individuals can feel happily compelled to document important thoughts, revelations, troubles, and plans. Relationships can help people to integrate and become increasingly more effective.