Case 2 Mr. Bob Straight: I Promised Myself I Would Be a Good Dad
Mr. Straight’s cogent story reveals the trials and tribulations of a kind/reserved man who got married because he sincerely wanted a close-knit family and a stable home. His own father had abandoned him when he was quite young, and he was determined to be a great and devoted dad when he became a father. In his interview, he discloses the hurt that accompanied being told his first wife wanted a divorce, the agony of having to move out, and the emotional loss experienced from not being able to be with his son daily. He goes on to describe his slow readjustment and acceptance of the irony of being the person to have to move out of the marital home and leave his son when it was his wife who wanted the divorce. His story goes on to include the more fulfilling later chapters he crafted during his second now long-term marriage, in which he and his wife have had two children and in which they have successfully been able to include his son as much as possible. This was not a bitter divorce, and there were few recriminations recounted.
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