The Bullet and Its Meaning: Forgiveness, Nonforgiveness, and Their Confrontation

  • Raymond F. Paloutzian
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Part of the Peace Psychology Book Series book series (PPBS)

Abstract

One of the biggest challenges that a person can face is to forgive those who killed those they love. This is so whether the killer is a single individual acting alone, or a member of an opposing social class, nation, or bygone empire. In such a situation the pain is so great, the hurt goes so deep that if someone tells you that you should forgive, it twists the knife that is already deep inside your chest and causes it to go deeper, causing more grief and agony than before.

Keywords

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Authors and Affiliations

  • Raymond F. Paloutzian
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  1. 1.Westmont CollegeSanta BarbaraUSA

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