This chapter examines the fatherhood settings and fatherhood stories of 14 gay men from the all-Australian sample and eight men from the international sample.1 When these 22 men spoke about relations with their children, they mainly did so by first, explaining the means by which they came to be parents, which I call ‘fatherhood settings’, and second, describing in more detail the nature of relations with their children, which I call ‘fatherhood stories’. My analysis of their stories revealed two fatherhood settings and four main fatherhood stories. The fatherhood settings and fatherhood stories the men told are examined in the context of generation difference, where applicable, and in light of gender assumptions about masculinity and care.


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Peter Robinson
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  1. 1.Swinburne University of TechnologyAustralia

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