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Why Crying Improves Our Well-being: An Attachment-Theory Perspective on the Functions of Adult Crying

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Hendriks, M.C., Nelson, J.K., Cornelius, R.R., Vingerhoets, A.J. (2008). Why Crying Improves Our Well-being: An Attachment-Theory Perspective on the Functions of Adult Crying. In: Vingerhoets, A.J., Nyklíček, I., Denollet, J. (eds) Emotion Regulation. Springer, Boston, MA. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-0-387-29986-0_6

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