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Vangelisti, A.L., Beck, G. (2007). Intimacy and Fear of Intimacy. In: L’Abate, L. (eds) Low-Cost Approaches to Promote Physical and Mental Health. Springer, New York, NY. https://doi.org/10.1007/0-387-36899-X_20

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