Love, Actually

  • Floriana Irtelli


Plato states that the human being is divided in two and cannot find happiness unless reunited with the other half from which it has been separated. Since ancient times, has the subject been presented as inherently relational? Or just incomplete? This age-old question has also been addressed by Freud, who states that we seeks a partner to avoid being alone. According to the Freud, the individual feels incomplete when alone.What is love? Looking for answers to these questions, the chapter explores how, in the twenty-first century, the couple is often no longer governed by a superordinate “prescriptive” authority. Various psychologic and psychoanalytic theories on the nature of love are explored. Nowadays, permanent commitment and the pursuit of happiness are often conceived as antipodes: social and psychological aspects of this phenomenon are considered, drawing together essential aspects of Bauman’s work. This chapter also illustrates some specific dynamics of the “hyper-modern spirit of the time” (the era of Facebook).


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Floriana Irtelli
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  1. 1.Catholic University of the Sacred HeartMilanItaly

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