Comparing Experiences Across the Stories: Loss and Belonging

  • Mahnaz Sekechi
Part of the Studies in the Psychosocial book series (STIP)


This chapter compares and contrasts the interviews conducted in terms of the main themes that emerged across the data set: loss, sadness, belonging/unbelonging, resilience and a range of coping strategies. The similarities, differences and contradictions between the narratives reveal dynamics of a deep-rooted enduring, encapsulated sense of loss and sadness. The sadness and melancholic pining, strong features of most of the interviews, suggest to me that it is a myth that all forms of loss can be mourned and worked through. The encapsulated sadness is lived with, as if woven into the fabric of the psychosocial experiences of migration and exile of the subjects; it has endowed them with an enriching depth of feeling and enhancement of the inner world.


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  • Mahnaz Sekechi
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  1. 1.Department of Psychosocial StudiesBirkbeck, University of LondonLondonUK

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